What My 91-Year-Old Mother Wants for Mother’s Day
(It’s Health Care for All)
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Smart government can and must deliver a reasoned, evidence-based health plan for all. Compassion demands it. Is that so much to ask for this holiday?When President Obama described his grandmother’s decision to have a hip replacement in the weeks before her death I couldn’t help but think of my mother, who will be 92 in June. Between 2000 and 2005 she underwent three hip surgeries, including two to “re-do” failing implants, preceded by weeks of immobilization and followed by rehabilitation. Today that third prosthetic is not in a perfect position, so (as is her way), she has sensibly agreed with her surgeon to live a sedentary life to avoid further surgery.
And I haven’t mentioned the amputation of her right arm at age 39 due to a sarcoma, or the fact that she taught herself to drive and sew with one arm, or that she re-read all of Proust in French two years ago, or that she is a world-famous psychotherapist who still works and still writes. The memoirs will be published next year. I challenge anyone reading this to find a tougher or more independent nonagenarian than my mother. My wife and daughter find her a formidable feminist act to follow.
My mother was luckier than the president’s grandmother. She did not have any other serious disease and recouped her strength following each of her hip surgeries. So when I read the president’s thoughtful remarks about the question of whether someone in his grandmother’s or my mother’s position should be able to elect hip replacement in their eighties, I thought it important to tell her story. As the president indicated, there are tough choices ahead. Perhaps not all expensive procedures can be justified for those near the end of life, but not everyone in their eighties is near the end. We don’t have enough data to justify the level of confidence that close cases require, which is why the president is right to support research that compares the effectiveness of medical treatments, and speeding the implementation of computerized information systems for better coordination of care. It’s not for government to decide life’s up at 80, but eighty-year-olds, like amputees who are decades younger, need evidence to make choices, with their doctors and their families.
Now you might suppose that my mother would join the chorus of critics of the administration’s efforts to secure adequate health care for all Americans, fearful that someone like her might someday be denied one hip surgery, let alone three. But if you spoke with her you would find that, like most Americans, she believes that a decent society should provide care as a moral imperative, and that markets alone are not well-suited to address the vulnerabilities that can come with illness, especially for those without family and resources. She would tell you that Medicare isn’t perfect, but at least the government doesn’t spend up to a third of her premium on advertising. How much better would it be if our health care system demanded a high quality of care rather than just paying for more procedures?
So she will not be cowed by the cries of “rationing” we will surely hear in the next few weeks from certain self-interested parties, anymore than losing her arm or her hip intimidated her. Smart government can and must deliver a reasoned, evidence-based health plan for all. Compassion demands it. Is that so much to ask for Mother’s Day?
Jonathan D. Moreno is the David and Lyn Silfen University Professor of Ethics at the University of Pennsylvania, a Senior Fellow at the Center for American Progress, and the Editor-in-Chief of Science Progress.
Comments on this article



I clearly am in need of futere assistance. Currently on medicare, using medicine for a special ailment, I support and have read the terms of use agreement and agree to its terms.
May 9th, 2009 at 9:22 pmThank you for this wonderful tribute to Zerka. She is truly a wise woman.
May 10th, 2009 at 11:29 amI agree with this political position and it turns out that tens of thousands of physicians also support it, through the Physicians for a National Health Plan (PNHP), an organization that offers a wealth of information that supports this move. Warmly, Adam
May 10th, 2009 at 2:00 pmThere are so many isolated elderly without any health care.
May 10th, 2009 at 9:47 pmThere are so many homeless veterans and those carrying the challange of Mental Illness.
Attention must be paid to those who can not afford quality healthcare. There are so many people with chronic illnesses that cannot afford medication. There are many elderly who do without medication or cut their pills in half to save money.
Yes, Johathan we must ask for more. Thank you for your work and your mothers’s story. Her story is inspirational.
Thank you for putting this message out on such a special day as mother’s day, and for acknowledging the lack of care for our elderly who are often active, wise, creative, contributing members of our community. I would encourage you, Jonathan, to send a copy of this to the White House. Under our new, more present and hopeful administration, maybe some real change can happen for healthcare for all of us.
May 12th, 2009 at 3:33 pmThe fear mongering in the main stream media in the last week about Medicare being in its death throes has depressed me. Your positive and hopeful article has cheered me considerably. We don’t need a one size fits all assembly line kind of insurance for sick people. We need a patient oriented, caring program of health and wellness. Imagine what we could do if the focus was on wellness rather than illness. This will not happen as long as big Pharma calls the shots. I hope this administration understands that.
May 13th, 2009 at 7:12 pmI clearly am in need of futere assistance. Currently on medicare, using medicine for a special ailment, I support and have read the terms of use agreement and agree to its terms.
May 27th, 2009 at 5:24 amMy husband and I met Zerka and Jacob Moreno in Denver 40 years ago. Her resilience, wisdom and depth has added significantly to pychoanalysis theory and practice. We need a medical system available to all to ensure brilliance doesn’t fall through the cracks.
September 16th, 2009 at 10:15 am